Monday, May 26, 2025

Additional Thoughts about Memorial Day

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In my last post I said I don’t usually do picnics on Memorial Day. Here’s why: this isn’t a “happy” holiday. This is a day of solemn remembrance for those who have fallen in the line of duty to their country. I always feel so conflicted about eating potato salad and hitting the pool in those circumstances, you know?

But life has been rough lately. And it’s rare I’m not working on a weekend or have a to-do list a mile long. And frankly, we need to be social once in a while, and our neighbors work hard to give people social opportunities here. So we went. 

At today’s picnic, I was glad to see that they began by playing a speech honoring fallen service members, followed by a  moment of silence. You could hear a pin drop in that room.

They played an old Memorial Day speech originally
made by Ronald Reagan in the 80s


And actually, it was so nice to meet some of our neighbors. We had really interesting conversations with them. And they had a door prize, these candles, which I won. So when I got home, I lit this candle in memory of those who are gone. That feels appropriate. 

One of the candles from a set
I won in a door prize.
I lit it in honor of the fallen and
will let it go all night.



๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿ‡ธ

Memorial Day Socializing

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I don’t usually do this but we decided to go to the neighborhood picnic today. I made a pasta salad so let’s hope people like it!

You can’t see it but I am wearing red, white, and blue! ๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿ‡ธ


Saturday, May 24, 2025

French Toast on a Saturday

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I saw our bread was getting slightly stale, so I decided to make French toast this morning. Hit me with your favorite French toast recipes! 

My usual is:
๐Ÿž Bread that’s getting a little stale
๐ŸฅšEgg (can stretch with egg whites too)
๐Ÿฅ›Milk or half n half (whatever I’ve got)
 ๐ŸจVanilla extract or other flavor (I’ve used pumpkin, orange, strawberry...)
๐ŸซšCinnamon (or some other spice blend like apple pie spice, pumpkin pie spice, etc.)
๐Ÿฅฃcrushed corn flakes or other cereal if you want a crust after dipping in the egg mixture


Soaking in my grandmother's Jadeite bowl


You know the drill: mix it all in a shallow dish and then dip/soak the bread. If you want a crust, then dip in the crushed cereal. Then onto a hot griddle, cook, flip, cook some more.

For two people I can stretch 1 egg by adding egg whites and the milk, plus it’s slightly less fat if you watch that stuff, but let's not fool ourselves: It’s French toast. It’s not going to be healthy. Carbs turn to fat. ๐Ÿ˜… I like to serve it with a sausage patty. 

Anyway, what’s your favorite way to make French toast?

It may not be beautiful, but it was delish! 


Saturday, May 17, 2025

ConCarolinas 2025 panels have been announced!

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I'm so excited to share that I will be on eight panels across the weekend at ConCarolinas 2025. This is a convention I've attended every year for several years in a row, traveling 3.5 hours to Charlotte just to be with people with similar interests to mine. My husband and I have enjoyed getting away to it every year, so when I applied as a panelist and was accepted, to say I'm thrilled is an understatement. Below is my schedule (subject to change if needed, of course): 

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Friday, May 30

4:30p Organization for the Unorganized (Glenwaters)


Saturday May 31

10:30a Deconstructing Your Past: Unlocking Growth in Your Present (Glenwaters)
12:30p Dragons, Sea Serpents, and Water Monsters: Cryptids of the Deep (Burnham)
7:00p Famous True Crime Updates (Harris)
10:00p Bedtime Stories (Harris)


Sunday June 1

9:00a Time Slips, Glitches in Reality, and the Mandela Effect (Burnham)
10:30a The Goatman, the Lizardman, and the Bunny Man (Burnham)
1:30p What to Read When You Live in a Dystopia? (Keynes)


This is a family-friendly event with something for everyone. Get your tickets and see the full schedule HERE

Sunday, May 11, 2025

Happy Mother's Day

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Happy Mother's Day to all of you who fill that role...especially to my beautiful mom and also my beautiful mother-in-law (older photos below). Hope you all have a wonderful day!



We celebrated by calling my mother-in-law (who lives a few states away) and cooking a nice dinner for my mom, who we're more local to (hamburgers on the grill and homemade pasta salad, per her request). It was a nice day, and I'm so grateful we can celebrate these wonderful women on ANY day, but especially on this day. 




Wednesday, May 7, 2025

When Life Hits: Ask for Help

Friends, we need your help. My husband was laid off from his job and is looking for a new one. We're looking for leads on a Site Reliability Engineer / Linux Administrator role. 

Below is a quick summary of his experience/strengths. If you have any leads, I'm happy to share his resume if your org is hiring or if you know someone who knows someone. Thanks in advance for your help! 
  • Extensive experience designing, deploying, and managing large
  • scale, high-availability systems. 
  • Strong focus in scripting and automation, enabling efficient system provisioning, configuration management, and task orchestration. 
  • Skilled in integrating open-source tools with modern workflows to support complex data pipelines. 
  • Known for deep technical knowledge, reliability, and the ability to bridge legacy systems with cutting-edge technologies.

See LinkedIn for more details on his experience. Thanks in advance for your help!

Monday, May 5, 2025

International Bereaved Mother's Day: May 4, 2025

(cross-posted from social media)

International Bereaved Mother's Day is on the first Sunday in May, which this year happened to coincide with what is typically a day of celebration for us (an anniversary). I found myself torn: do I acknowledge both? 

I decided not to post yesterday about that sad time in our lives. I chose instead to share our immense joy. Life is short, and we've taken a lot of hits over our 18 years together, especially in these last few months, so I decided to focus on the good, which is a lifeline for me.

But that doesn't mean I didn't feel it somewhere in there. I let it float in and out of my awareness as it wanted to, but I didn't focus on it or hang onto those feelings. I am feeling them more today, though.

Some years I pull out the little blanket a friend had made for what was supposed to be our happy occasion. That blanket actually gives me comfort, because it symbolizes love: for each other, for our child, and the love of a friend who made something beautiful for our baby with her own hands.

Had things been different, our child would be getting ready to graduate high school soon. I sometimes can't fathom that. 

For you moms out there who've also lost a child, I see you, I feel you, and I am sending my love to you this week and always. If I can do anything for you, even just listen or sit with you, I'm here. ❤️๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป




Clouds Clouds Clouds!

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Look at these amazing clouds we had last night! I love living in such beauty!

Taken on the NC/SC border near Little River, SC


Sunday, May 4, 2025

Eighteen Years Together

How to sum up 18 years since our first date? 


๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป Gratitude. 
❤️ Love. 
๐Ÿคช Silliness. 
๐Ÿ‘ซ Partnership. 
๐Ÿคฃ Laughter.

Thanks for finding me, Fred.


18-years-beth-wojiski-collage


Monday, April 28, 2025

A Beautiful, Unexpected Gift

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What’s comforting you lately? 

The other day I received a lovely surprise in the mail: this beautiful stained glass piece was sent by a friend of mine. I am so touched and have hung it up in my window. 

St. Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle… 

…is a prayer that has gotten me through some tough times over the years. I take a lot of comfort in it, and also in friendships new and old…and I’ll always think of my friend when I see this in my window.  ☺️


She bought it on Etsy if you're interested! I can't confirm the seller/crafter (I didn't see it on the packaging), but if you search on "Archangel stained glass" you'll find it and others from various crafters. 



Wednesday, April 23, 2025

World Book Day 2025

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Happy World Book Day! To celebrate, please share a favorite read in the comments. Or if you’re an author or indie bookseller, feel free to share links to your books or shop. 



Here's a book I recently enjoyed. Hope you like it, too! 

Sunday, April 20, 2025

Friday, April 18, 2025

Update on Tina Turtle

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Update on Ms. Tina Turtle: I believe she has concluded her business and has made her way back home. I have no idea if there is a nest; if so, it’s well-hidden and I’m not inclined to look too hard. She moved to various locations under the bushes in the bed these past few days. The video attached is what she was doing yesterday morning.

Later yesterday she’d moved yet again to well under a holly bush and sat inside her shell the rest of her stay.




This morning I saw her moving away. I snapped a photo as she was getting underway, then watched for a few, but I had to run to a vestibular therapy appointment so I left her to it. She was a few feet onto the lawn and moving away from the house as I pulled out of the drive.

I let my lawn people know where she had been (red circle) so they can avoid the area (which they said they’d do.)




So this’ll probably be my last post about it unless things change. It was fun hosting Ms. Turtle for a few nights! 

Wednesday, April 16, 2025

Turtle Visitor

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We have a super cute box turtle hanging out. I don’t know where he came from. Landscaper came today to put down the mulch; an hour later here’s this little guy! I’ve never seen one here before.









Update: I think “he” might be a “she,” so I have nicknamed her Tina. ๐Ÿข

Tuesday, April 15, 2025

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I don't remember if I've shared this piece here. I know I have in stitching groups and on social media, but I  was reminded of it today. This is Chubby Bee by Jeanette Douglass and the finishing in the honeycomb frame was done by Amy and Memory at Barefoot Needleart in Surfside Beach, SC. I made it as a smalls exchange piece for the retreat in February. It’s so cute I might make one for myself! 



Saturday, March 15, 2025

Update to Our Spooky Story

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Following up from THIS post, I wanted to update on our little mystery about the audiobook that started up out of the blue after the device had been asleep for weeks. (If you don’t know what I’m talking about, please go to the original post first, then read this one.) 

Fred has two possible theories based in technology and its foibles.
 
The first is that the tablet had sat unused for a while and pushed an update to the Audible app. Once the update pushed, it restarted Audible and resumed at the last place it remembered on that device. That device has an older version of Android that is no longer supported, so who knows what bugs lurk in the firmware when faced with new app updates. 

The second theory is similar to the first except instead of an app update, the trigger may have been a power surge. We get a lot of power fluctuations here, and they can wake up a sleeping device…and then the rest of theory #1 could go into effect. 

In both cases, Audible has permission to run while the device is locked, so once triggered it could easily begin playing. I’m not sure we can replicate the circumstances and test it, however. 

I did go and listen to the passage that got triggered. To address anyone who thought it was a message to me, here are the details:

The book is The Junkyard Druid by M. D. Massey, and the scene that played was one in which the main character, Colin McCool, confronts Larry the Chupacabra for hiding in his bedroom. No spoilers, but McCool had every right to be angry. ๐Ÿ˜‚

Perhaps I’m meant to stitch the Chupacabra next on my Cryptid cross-stitch? ๐Ÿ˜†

Anyway, I hope I’ve conveyed Fred’s explanation well enough and will let him correct me if not. 
I appreciate everyone who weighed in on our little mystery!


Book Recommendation: From Bat to Worse by Alexandra Christian

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[crossposted on social media] 

Do I have a book recommendation for you. The talented Alexandra Christian recently released a mystery (cozy horror?) set in a retirement home. From the cover: 

“George Waterman doesn't want to leave his lifelong home behind and move into the shishy-poo-poo retirement village at Shady Acres, but a busted hip and his daughters' insistence leaves him little choice.

Certain that life is about to become a dull routine of physical therapy and boredom, George finds his assumptions challenged his very first morning there. George is quickly pulled into the circle and the confidences of a ragtag group of elderly sleuths, ones who are sure that something shady is afoot at Shady Acres.

Though doubtful at first, George can't deny the mounting evidence that their lovely home is, in fact, run by vampires--vampires who are happy to use the old and forgotten residents to raise an undead army. George and his new friends--a quirky, hilarious cast of lovable characters--must find a way to stop the evil vampires from taking over the town, and along the way, 

George just might discover that being old doesn't have to be boring and that Shady Acres--despite the vampires--is a home worth defending.” 


Food and drink warning: any of you who knew me in high school/college know that I used to be called Lurch because I’d refuse to snarf or spit-take when someone did something funny. It became a game: who can get Beth to actually spit her drink out (or snarf it up her nose) by timing their hilarity to when I was drinking something? 

No one, that’s who. Instead, I’d lurch forward in laughter but shut my mouth tightly until I could safely swallow my drink. Hence, “Lurch.”

Until I read this book. I was drinking my morning coffee and read something so funny that I literally spit my drink out all over me, my favorite blanket, and sprayed the kindle. The blanket and me are washable and are just fine, as was the kindle, whose waterproofing came in handy that day. 

So high school/college friends: someone has finally done it. The challenge is over. No one could do it in the 80s or 90s, but Lexxie here nailed it decades later.

Anyway, go read this book and then if you like it, consider giving the author a nice review when you’re done. (And if you’re curious how I know this author, I met her at ConCarolinas a few years ago, picked up a book and enjoyed it, and I’ve been buying her books since.) 

Get yours:

Enjoy!

Friday, March 14, 2025

Time for a spooky story!

[crossposted from social media]

Okay my friends, gather round, because it’s storytime. The weirdest thing happened to Fred and me today, and we can’t explain it . . . yet.

To set the scene, we were both in the living room, which is in the back of the house. He was on his lunch break having a nap on the big couch, and I was sitting on the loveseat working on my laptop. 

The house was very quiet. Out of nowhere I heard an angry male voice coming from the front of the house, I thought from outside. It was sudden, sharp, and loud, but I could’t determine what was being said, only the manner in which it was being said. It sounded like someone about to get into a fight.

I thought “What is going on? Is our next door neighbor yelling? Is he okay?” 

I jumped off the couch and started down the hall, shouting “Fred! Do you hear that?” He woke up with a start and then said, “Yeah. Right behind you.” 

I dashed down to the front of the house to twitch the curtains and be nosy, and he followed me. 

Turns out, no curtain twitching was necessary. I followed the voice . . . straight into Fred’s office. Somewhere in there was the angry male voice. 

“Fred! It’s in here! What the --?”

He was hot on my heels into his office.

“What the hell?”

“It’s coming from your desk, Fred.” 

“ . . . What? How?”

On his desk was an older tablet that he was charging. He occasionally uses it to take photos or draw or listen to audiobooks, but he hadn’t used it in at least a few weeks. 

It had randomly decided to play an audiobook—one that he wasn’t even listening to—at top volume and in a dramatic scene where the main character is having a fight…

… and we don’t know why. ๐Ÿคท‍♀️


There were no devices listening for a command to start playing the book. No one had been speaking to give a command. Had a command been given, that device was not connected to that system and would be incapcable of receiving said command. 

Additionally, the tablet had been sitting unused. Fred had not been listening to that book, because he’d finished the book weeks ago. The part that started up was in the middle of the book. 

Why it did all that, we have no idea.

It was the weirdest thing that’s happened in a while. Even Fred was a little weirded out, and that’s saying something.

So this one is up there in terms of creepy happenings, like the time I was home alone in Pittsburgh and Fred was in Ann Arbor and I was in bed upstairs when I heard a male voice downstairs in my kitchen. Grabbing my phone set to 911 and a big stick, I crept downstairs to confront an intruder . . . only to realize a radio in the kitchen above the sink had suddenly decided to turn itself on at midnight a few nights in a row.  (We eventually debunked that one. I had accidentally handled a button on the front that turned on an alarm that tuned to a radio station at midnight.)

Or (in the same house as above) that time we were in bed falling asleep and we heard a chime similar to a Tibetan meditation bowl in our bedroom—just one short, clear chime—except there were no bowls, there were no bells, and neither of our devices at the time had that particular sound on them as an option for alarms or alerts. We never did manage to debunk that one.)

So … maybe we’ll figure this one out, and maybe we won’t. Fred has a theory, but we want to know what you think?

Do you think it could be a haunting or something paranormal? Or do you think there’s a logical explanation? If the latter, what is your theory about how that tablet/audiobook did that? 


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Thursday, February 20, 2025

Cryptid xs update - Enfield Horror done!

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Stitching progress update 

This week I finished the Enfield Horror rectangle on my Cryptid SAL (designer: Witchy Stitcher). The little teefies amuse me to no end! 

Look at the little teefies! ๐Ÿ˜

It occurred to me that I have no idea what the Enfield Horror is supposed to be. It’s the only cryptid on this piece that I can’t recall easily, so I went and looked it up. According to a Wikipedia article, it terrorized Enfield, Illinois in 1973, trying to break into a home when a young boy was home alone. They say that it may have possibly been an escaped kangaroo (which could certainly explain the three-legged look and a hairy appearance).

The next creature I will stitch is near and dear to my heart: the Jersey Devil! Stay tuned! 

Want to work on this one? You'll need a heck of a lot of black embroidery floss (DMC 310). I tend to buy mine in flat packs of 20 at a time, but you can also get what's lovingly referred to as the Cone of Doom.



Monday, February 17, 2025

They Aren't Your Client

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The ideal audience for this post is editors, especially newer ones. Authors who'd like a sneak peek into issues editors face are welcome to read this, too. 

Editors, I’ve got four words of advice for you:

"They aren't your client."

Any new editor who I've mentored and is reading this now is probably laughing because I say this a lot.

What do I mean by "they aren't your client"?

This is probably best explained with some theoretical situations:

Scenario 1:

A potential client gets in touch about a quote but refuses to send the manuscript because of some misguided idea they have (or bad advice they received) that anyone who sees their work will steal it. They hem and haw. How much time are you going to spend trying to convince someone you simply want to get an idea of the scope of the job and how much time it'll take you to do it?

When this happens to me, I gently suggest maybe they're not ready for an editor if the process makes them that uncomfortable. I encourage them to do their research into the fact that copyright exists the minute you put words to paper, and that means electronically, too. I reassure them that professional editors are not interested in stealing their work. I encourage them to ask questions and vet me, but after several back-and-forths, if I sense there is no movement, then I release them with kindness, wish them luck with their project, and move on. My time is valuable and I'm not here to convince anyone that they NEED me to edit their work.

It's okay if they're not my client. Someone out there is. And someone out there is their editor if it isn't me. It's all good!

Scenario 2:

An author sent a sample for you to evaluate the work and prepare a quote. They sent the first chapter and it didn't look too messy, so you quoted the job based on that, but when you begin, you realize it needs a lot more work than you thought. Now you're stuck possibly missing a deadline or not being fairly compensated for increased scope ... or are you?

What's the solution here? Well, it's fair to reach out and let the client know the part of the manuscript they sent for evaluation wasn't representative of the whole piece and that there will have to be an increase in scope/time/fee. Renegotiate. If they balk, then they weren't your client. It's a rough lesson to learn, but it's okay that you went through it to learn it. (And now you know to ask for the full manuscript before evaluating the job.)

Scenario 3: 

You're a new editor who has successfully passed some editing courses and you really want that first job under your belt. You throw a wide net out there in marketing land, trying to reel in any fish you can. The problem with that scenario is that you may not be a good fit for an author's needs. 

Wait, scratch that. Let me revise: You WILL NOT BE a good fit for EVERY author's needs. Period. You could be the best editor out there, gotten all As in your coursework, and still not everyone out there is your client. 

Are you triggered by violent scenes? Maybe don't waste time pitching that author who writes serial killer thrillers. They aren't your client. 

Only like clean romance? Maybe don't try to reel in that paranormal shifter romance writer who writes explicit sex scenes. They aren't your client. 

Intimidated by bibliography and reference rules in nonfiction? You could have a great love of history but not be a good fit for a publisher of history books unless you're ready to dive into that morass of references and bib. That publisher may not be your client unless and until you wrap your head around how to treat references. 

When you're new, it's tempting to try to be everything to everyone. Instead, be thoughtful about your interests, skills, and understanding of genres and expectations for those genres (including nonfiction). Also, think about what you like or dislike. Tailor your marketing to the writers whose work fits your vision. Those other authors aren't your clients, but the ones who fit your vision are, and you are all (editor and authors) better served if you honor this about yourself up front. In the meantime, if you know you want to work with a certain type of author but don't have that experience yet, make it a goal to learn more about their genre, conventions for that genre, and, in the case of nonfiction (if that's what you really want to do) dive into the references chapters of Chicago Manual of Style and learn all about how to handle notes and bibliography. Just because someone isn't your client now doesn't meant they couldn't be your client in the future.

Scenario 4: 

You put a lot of time into a beautiful quote and project proposal, fair to both you and author in terms of scope of work, timeline, and price. They say they want to move ahead, but try to negotiate the price down. Are they your client?  If they are respectful of you, your expertise and your time, but they're on a budget, and you can meet them at a new price without causing yourself any issues, then they are potentially your client. (Note that you are not obligated to ever discount your work; some people do discount in certain scenarios or offer pro bono work, but don't let that take up all of your resources.) 

However, if a potential client is disrespectful, demanding, unreasonable, or simply can't afford you: they aren't your client. Wish them well, and let them find an editor who can meet their budget/expectations. I have a lot of respect for authors who realized I wasn't their editor for some reason (usually they couldn't afford the cost but wanted to be respectful of my value as a professional and not try to get a discount), and we still have a good relationship today. They have referred me to other authors, and I have promoted their books. There are good relationships to be had even when someone isn't your client, and that in and of itself is a gift.

Scenario 5:

You get a manuscript to evaluate for a proofread, but you realize there's a lot more needed than a simple check for grammar, spelling, punctuation, and the other things involved in a proofread. (See how I define a proofread here.) For example: all of the dialogue needs to be formatted, there's head-hopping, and the book just doesn't quite hold together plot-wise: Do you go ahead and quote a proofread? Or do you let the author know the truth? 

Maybe I'm in the minority, but I let them know the truth. They aren't my client. They're the client of a developmental editor, line editor, or copy editor (whatever the case may be) but not a proofreader. OR: they're my client if I feel the work needed is within my skillset, in which case, I'll negotiate for that scope, NOT a simple proofread. If they agree and we move ahead, then great! But if they are convinced they only need a proofread, and I know that scope is not appropriate, then I will gently refuse the job. 

The way I see it is this: It's not fair to authors for an editor to ignore major issues in a manuscript just to get the proofreading job. It's also not fair for authors to expect an editor to do free labor or go against their professional opinion when it comes to what a book needs. I will always let an author know if I think their book is or is not ready for me. That's the most ethical thing to do. Until their manuscript is in shape to be proofread, then: they're not my proofreading client. 

And that's totally okay!

Scenario 6:

You've been contacted by an possible client for a lengthy job. You've spent valuable time and effort preparing a thoughtful quote, only to have them tell you they'd rather use an AI tool instead of your services to clean up what three other editors have missed. 

The obvious reason they aren't your client is because they have just decided they'd prefer to use a free AI tool instead of paying for your professional services. You could try to give them a counterargument as to how AI misses things or introduces errors, but that's probably going to be ignored if someone is already convinced they need AI. 

But the other question you should be asking yourself is this: they've had three other editors? And they still don't believe their work has been sufficiently edited? This is definitely a sign that you need to ask good questions to find out what's going on. 

I will say this: if it's a situation where the author is critical of the editors, please be careful about throwing those other editors under the bus in an attempt to get the job. After all, there are two sides to every story. The author may have misunderstood the scope of the editing job, or perhaps they introduced errors later. Or maybe they were really burned by three different editors...but the number of editors is definitely a sign that you need to figure out what's going on so you truly understand the scope of the job.

Either way, grace, understanding, and diplomacy are the way to go in a situation like this, and perhaps at the end of the conversation you'll get some paid work ...but maybe not.  And in that case, it's okay that the author wasn't your client. 

Conclusion


Don't be discouraged if someone isn't your client (or your editor).

None of what I've said above is a judgment on anyone: it's okay for anyone in the process to say "Hey, maybe this isn't a good match" for any reason. Indeed, all of my contracts have what I call a "kill clause" so that at any time and for any reason, the parties can stop working together and wrap it up according to whatever they agreed to (payment for partial services rendered, for instance—and if you want contracts help for editing clients, this book is a great resource!).

It's worth noting that the majority of people with whom I was honest thanked me for steering them in the right direction. In those cases, it led them to find the right help for their book, and I'm happy for them, even if they weren't MY client.

Do you see where I'm going with this?

I hope this helps any editors navigate the mindset around whether or not to work with someone. (Plus, if any authors are reading this, you can see some of what goes on in our side of the writing industry.)  It isn't something that needs to be stressful or contentious. Knowing where you stand on whether someone is your client is an empowering tool and will help you navigate your career with more ease.

Got any other good scenarios or examples of when it's okay for someone to not be your client? Drop a comment below! (Please keep comments thoughtful, respectful, and mindful of privacy.) 

In the meantime, don't be disappointed if someone isn't your client. Anytime something doesn't work out, you are freed up to find the RIGHT client. (And this goes both ways: authors are freed up to find the RIGHT editor!) 

Win-win, as far as I'm concerned! 



Additional Thoughts about Memorial Day

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